F.E.A.R   4 comments


“Fear is only as deep as the mind allows”

Fear a crippling phenomenon, so many of us live in fear, but it comes in different shapes, sizes and degree. From the fear of heights, fear of being alone, to the fear of being a disappointment. Personally I think the greatest fear of all is the fear of the unknown. Like a vortex the fear of the unknown has the ability to obliterate everything around it I mean literally suck out the life out of a being but here is the twist…….this can only happen if you let it.

“….But how is that possible you say?” well!!! I’ll tell you simply in one word or maybe two…. “YOUR -MIND”

The Mind is the most powerful tool on earth yet we take it for granted, filling it up with junk…..okay! Okay!! So we don’t digress let’s talk about the mind another day, for now let’s focus on how the mind can squash fear…..You have a choice in every situation a choice to win or lose, a choice to get hurt and let it weigh you down or pick yourself up, a choice to shy away from life or face it head on; at the end of the day we are all product of our choices.

Whether, we live in fear or not is our choice. A friend once proceeded to ask out a girl he was truly crazy about and he said what’s the worst that could happen? There are only two answers she would give either yes!!! Or No!!! Now, obviously the positive answer is preferred which of course would give this friend of mine joy but he prepared his mind for even the negative answer saying “If I do get a No….at least I tried.” A popular saying goes better to have tried and lost than never to have tried at all”…ermmm!!!  I think that’s the way it goes…Lol!!!!

So many of us are scared of failure, rejection, and disappointment unfortunately instead of facing these things we rather seat on our hands and wonder about these negative feelings……. “Am scared he won’t love me…. Am not good enough or qualified enough for the job…” we get so wrapped up in our worries we end up not trying anything at all. So many people have allowed fear steal a big junk of their lives leaving them wondering a few years down the line “what would my life have been like if only I tried…?

The funny thing about fear is once you allow it in a couple of times it becomes a permanent house guest and gets bolder with time, before you know It’s a trait, next thing you know it’s in your makeup. I’ve got a newsflash for you….you decide who and what you are…Q.E.D

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.”
Eleanor Roosevelt

          There are only two responses to fear which are flee or fight….again choices; you either allow fear to subdue you or; you subdue it. Most a times fear relates to future occurrences, because we feel we cannot control what happens next.

There, is that fear, which I like to call the fear of the unknown. It’s like looking into a pitch black hall way knowing that anything can pop your way soon but you still have to make a decision to make… to stay where you are; Or to proceed. So many people have decided to stay put instead of proceeding allowing fear to rule their lives, and because of that today we have a lot people who are not where or who they ought to be….and really that just very sad!!!!

You might ask “…Hey soul sista don’t you get scared?” of course I do I get very scared heck!!! Am human aren’t I? But here is the deal getting scared to the point where you allow fear become a controlling factor in your life? Is a big No! No!! Not at all!!! Personally I kick against anything that seeks control over my life except God! Who you should willingly give control over your life…Nothing else should be allowed to control your life.

Now, according to research analyzed by Bill Tanner frequent online queries that involved fear were…. Flying, heights, intimacy, death, war, terrorist attacks, social rejection, failure, people, enclosed spaces, snakes, evil power, Public speaking ,crawling insects (cockroaches, spiders e.t.c) and so many more. Now, whatever it is that you are afraid of be like my friend whom I mentioned earlier in this write up and prepare yourself for every possible outcome; most of the time the worst outcomes rarely occurs.


1. Acknowledge it.

2. Write down what you are afraid of (or anxious about).

3. Tell someone (a friend, teammate, your boss, your FB friends).

4. Item by item, come up with a game plan for what you (and your company) can do to address the root causes of what it is that is sparking fear in you.

5. Acknowledge your successes each time your fear subsides and is supplanted by relaxation, ease, insight, breakthrough, and success.

Here’s something you must always remember when next fear tries to creep in; know this: FEAR is like hallucination, it’s not real.

You want to know the real definition of fear? Well here it is





The only time fear is good is when it causes a positive action/response. It’s important that you never allow FEAR control your life, or you miss out on a lot. Take that bold step today and confront your F.E.A.R

“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to continually be afraid you will make one.”
Elbert Hubbard

“Courage is not living without fear. 
Courage is being scared to death and doing the right thing anyway.”
– Chae Richardson –

Posted March 6, 2012 by Faith Onyebujoh in Uncategorized

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  1. Pingback: TS TIME TO BREAK THE CHAINS OF FEAR AND LIMITATION « Vine and Branch World Ministries

  2. fear is all in d mind….its up to u to either squash it or magnify it unfortunately most times we do the latter …..guys no one can be – little without ur permission ….nice piece we need these pep talks from time to time

  3. Pingback: Reading between the words: F.E.A.R « Mystiic

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