CREATING “FUN” IN YOUR LIFE   10 comments

CREATING “FUN” IN YOUR LIFE

“People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.”
Dale Carnegie


As adults, our lives are complicated and often very serious. We are involved in the serious business of grown-up stuff. We work hard. We support our families. We worry about money and higher prices. We fret about the condition of the world, politics, and our children. We have endless chores and tasks without much time for fun.

Watching people go about their lives these days you see more furrowed brows than laugh lines on a lot of faces. Everyone is all about getting a better life which in itself is not a bad thing but at what expense. It seems like the word fun has suddenly become an alien phenomenon to people.

I saw a quote recently, by G B Shaw it said we don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing. Have you ever noticed how happy people look years younger than their actual age? It’s good we remember how to smile, how to be happy… …how to have fun.

Sadly, some people see time for fun as a time they cannot spare; “a waste of time” some would say “when they could be out there making some more money.” Well I say that’s just a sad life and if you are at that point then you’ve stopped living and are just existing; and you need to know that just inanimate objects exist…

Another, factor that hinders people from having good fun is “MONEY.” People believe to have good fun you must spend a lot of money. To that I say a capital N.O… No!!!  It’s a mindset that should be debunked and quickly too. Society has made us think that way. So maybe now you’re asking the question “so, smarty pants (that’s me by the way!J) how do you have good fun without spending some good amount of money?” I’ll ask you just one question when you were younger how much money did you need to spend to have fun? One way or the other your mind was able to find fun all around you. Don’t get me wrong am not saying the kind of fun where you spend money is not great; of course it is! But, you don’t have to wait till you have extra cash to spare before you create more fun in your life.

“Don’t ever become a pessimist… a pessimist is correct oftener than an optimist, but an optimist has more fun, and neither can stop the march of events.” 
Robert A. Heinlein

 

Here is a simple guide to creating more fun in your life:

1.  Take yourself and your life less seriously. Lighten up about the serious business of being an adult. Serious business will always be there whether or not you choose to focus on it all the time. Stress is a killer – taking life too seriously is extremely stressful.  All the expectation and pressure feels like wearing a heavy backpack.  Stress drains our energy, dampens our enthusiasm and makes us sick.  Lightening up takes the stress away and helps us live life.  If you take things too seriously this can be very stressful, if you play along and laugh about it life becomes delightful.  So lighten up and enjoy the joke, rather than being the joke.

2.  Embrace the truth that fun is good. You don’t need to feel guilty or embarrassed about having fun. Being an adult doesn’t mean you’ve lost the child-like quality of wonder and joy and wild abandonment.

3.  Don’t be self-conscious. It’s OK to look goofy and unabashedly happy sometimes. Let your hair fly in the wind.

4.  Remember what was fun as a child. Young, Wild and Free as a child with little inhibitions right? Here are some fun things you might choose to try:

  • flying a kite
  • boat rides
  • dancing
  • throwing a ball
  • wading in a stream
  • reading in a hammock (using your bed sheets to make a tent indoors)
  • having a picnic
  • playing cards
  • jumping on a trampoline
  • riding with the windows down with the winds in your hair.
“Young and free…”

4.  Nourish your friendships so that you have partners in fun. Some of the most fun occasions in in life are with really close friends. Become the fun instigator of your circle. I’ve recently thought about having a pajama party I’ve never had one (might send the invites out pwetty soon..LOL!!! ) Remember that People matter – there is great power in exploring our inner-self, yet even monks live in monasteries.  People bring energy, creativity, joy and learning to life.  Surround yourself with great people and revel in it.

5.  Build time for fun with your spouse or partner. Think back on the times when you were first together and the fun you created naturally. Rekindle those moments. Be playful. Make him/her laugh with silliness or private jokes. Take fun into the bedroom.

6.  Share fun with your children. It’s easy to go off into your separate corners of the house to do chores, homework, computer surfing. Connect with your children through fun. They are the masters of it; (infact they hold the masters degree in FUN) so let them take the lead with a game: maybe a family game, a hobby, or a trip to an amusement park.

“This lil adorable girl finds fun in a simple make up session…kids! They find fun in everything… LOL!!!”

Before we go on its very important I say this: people need to learn to – Let go – there are some things in life that are fundamental and worth fighting for.  There are many more things that are trivial and we should let go.  Letting go of some of this weight brings more joy to life.

7.  Be creative and spontaneous. All fun activities don’t have to be planned or traditional. Come up with something unexpected or surprising. Maybe you could go back to playing police and thiefJ!!! I remember recently when my friends and I started playing the Ten! Ten!! Game its was fun just trying to remember all the rules… …but I think the most fun part was when the guys joined in now that was hilarious…

8. Make it non-competitive. There are many sports and games that are loads of fun until it starts getting competitive. Then lighthearted fun can quickly morph into an ego-based urge to win. That’s a different kind of fun that stir up a different part of the psyche.

 9. Be child-like, but remember your limits. There are certain things kids can do with ease of course they are still young but its important that no matter how childlike you want to be remember your limit someone shared a story where her kids went to body surf in the ocean a few years ago, while they were in the states. They were having so much fun, and she wanted to join in. But with the first big wave, she was slammed to the ocean floor, she wasn’t seriously hurt thank goodness but she had a big bruise a remainder of that vacation… know your limit.

10. Plan fun into your life. It’s easy to forget about fun. It’s been so long since it lived with us every day as a regular companion. Fun may not come knocking at your door, so you may have to invite it in. Learn to plan fun activities with your family and friends. Look for opportunities to experience fun. Find ways to make the tedious tasks of life more interesting and fun to enliven your spirit and brighten your day.

I’m convinced that we are programmed from birth to have fun and enjoy this beautiful Earth we call home. It’s only as we age that real fun is abandoned for the pursuit of other things that choke our life up. As proof that we are programmed for fun from birth, just watch toddlers having fun before they learn to tone it down. I’ll end this by saying: Life is an adventure to be enJOYed.sadly a lot of us are short sighted!!! Anyone who keeps the ability to see beauty, to be optimistic.. ..the ability to have fun never grows old.

That’s me just letting go!!! Have fun pipz!!!

“We are driven by five genetic needs: survival, love and belonging, power, freedom, and fun.”
William Glasser 

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10 responses to “CREATING “FUN” IN YOUR LIFE

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  1. Its true

  2. Its been said that most people trade what they will need for a life time for what they want @ the moment thats y they alwayz never breakthrough despite their efforts…..having fun is healthy………

  3. fun trills the heart.

  4. I enjoy catchin fun bt my hubby is reserve.

    • Hello Adenike
      you will have to agree that even reserve pple have their fun side… you just need to know what button to push and even you will be surprised how much fun they can be. focus on ur hubby and what gets him going that means you wud have to put aside what u consider fun for awhile …at least until u’re able to pull him out of his shell…..believe me it works….it worked for me and believe it or not I was a serious introvert; still can be sometimes but i have my fun moments……so am cheering for you girl!!! you can do this!!! ((SMILES!!!))

  5. faith pls be mine marry me,i promise to make it fun and great. really!

  6. Its gud to have fun bt there are some places dat would Have been d most funniest place bt wen u mke fun dere today; 2moro dey ll luk u lyk smbdy. Dat is nt serious

  7. U are 2 much joo!

  8. I mst say dat ur truly a ‘DIVA’n a spectacular being created by d almighty,touchn livez daily n brng d bst out of ppl hu dnt rily knw dia worth.Lucky is dat guy dat gets 2 marry u n evn luckier r d babies u becum a mum 2.Thumbs up 2 u!! Wit mch luv

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