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Is Happiness A Decision Or A Feeling……?   3 comments

Is Happiness A Decision Or A Feeling……?

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“Most folks are as happy as they make up their mind to be.”

Abraham Lincoln

I asked this question on my show on radio today and was quite impressed with people’s response…. a lot of people were of the opinion that Happiness is a Decision… but then comes the question If its a decision why do we have more UN-happy people out there? Is it that they choose to be UN-happy? Let me start by saying; happiness is a phenomenon every human on this planet desires in their hearts. Yet most of us look for happiness in all the wrong places and end up causing ourselves more suffering. This is the case sadly, because we are looking outside of ourselves for some-thing or some-one to bring us Happiness.

 

A 13th-century Persian poet simply called  Rumi once said; we go room to room looking for the diamond necklace around our neck. I totally agree with this saying, we search “everywhere” for happiness, and sadly; we never see where it really is, which is with us all along.

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I think we all would agree that Happiness does not depend on material things, such as driving a certain car or owning a prestigious house. (although, such things can add pleasure to our life).

We have to take note that, happiness does not depend on what happens or on other people, like whether tou hve a significant other or not. (although, having loving and supportive people around does add to our enjoyment).

“Don’t wit around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself.”

Alice Walker

 

Sometimes people choose to wallow and take no responsibility for things… you can’t choose how you feel, but you can make choices to enhance your chance of feeling happy.

Happiness is not to be found anywhere in the external world.

Personally, I believe the main obstacle to happiness is our faulty thinking. For Instance thinking, Some-one or some-thing can make you happy, is faulty thinking. you have a choice, to be happy, but do you want to be If your answer is YES! Then its time you should decide to be.

I like to remind myself that I am the creator of my own thoughts and state of mind. It is my choice what feeling I choose to have on any given day. This does not mean I don’t go with the flow of feelings (Of course I do … I am no robot), but the fact that I can choose at any given moment to change what it is I desire…. is just re-assuring.

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”

Mahatma Gandhi

 

Sadly, a lot of us have learned to quietly accept whatever happens to us, without question, without standing up and saying ‘No!’ We have become passive, powerless and uninspired robots, going along with the crowd. It’s a sad state of affairs that we have been raised in. It seems somewhere along the line, a standard was laid out for us and we are ‘expected’ to magically meet this invisible ‘standard’ by compromising and living according to someone else’s perspectives… I ask you now….  Where is the happiness in that?

It is about time that we realise that we are empowered within us to choose our emotion, to choose how we respond or react to something, is all up to us. It is all choice!!!

So again I say… Choosing happiness is a choice.

Just take a minute to think about how you are feeling right now. How long has it been since you chose what you wanted to feel?

Now, I am not saying that you go into a state of denial if you are in one kind of trauma or another, but I am suggesting that you put in a new option for yourself. Instead of sitting in pain, decide for a few minutes that you will focus on happiness. Plus, it doesn’t hurt to try; because think about it would you rather go through life choosing happiness and drawing happy experiences to yourself, or would you rather just sit in pain and expect the worst, thereby feeling the worst?

So where can we find happiness?

I will tell you…. stop looking outside  for what can only be found inside.

And make a decision to be happy.

I would like to formally invite you to be Happy!

Repeat the phrase below:

I, your name, decide to be happy right now, despite the state of the world, or what happens to me and around me.

I absolutely know it is my God-given birth right to be happy.

And as the light of God that i am, I reclaim happiness and happiness reclaims me.

Make the decision everyday to be happy!!!

 

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“Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions; it is governed by our mental attitude.”

Dale Carnegie

 

 

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