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THE POWER OF “THANK YOU!”   6 comments

THE POWER OF “THANK YOU!”

thank u 1God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say ‘thank you?

William Arthur Ward

 

I’ve got a CRAZY question for you…

How often do you say “thank you?”

I’m not talking about the robotic “thank you” you give at a fast food joint on picking your burger.

Or the “thanks” you say when people hold the door open for you.

I’m talking about the sincere, time-consuming “thank you.”

Think about it… How often do you say it? My guess is you do, but wish you could do it more, right?

 

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The simple act of saying ‘thank you’ is a demonstration of gratitude in response to an experience that was meaningful to a customer or citizen.

Simon Mainwaring

 

“Thank You! ….. Are they just words or do they have the power to make people take action?”

 

They are two words that have the power to transform our health, happiness, athletic performance and success. Research shows that grateful people are happier and more likely to maintain good friendships. A state of gratitude, according to research by the Institute of HeartMath, also improves the heart’s rhythmic functioning, which helps us to reduce stress, think more clearly under pressure and heal physically. It’s actually physiologically impossible to be stressed and thankful at the same time. When you are grateful you flood your body and brain with emotions and endorphins that uplift and energize you rather than the stress hormones that drain you.

Saying thank you in life and business is powerful, thoughtful, memorable, inexpensive, and easy. Plus, the opportunities to give thanks are endless.

Gratitude is like muscle. The more we do with it the stronger it gets.

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‘Thank you’ is the best prayer that anyone could say. I say that one a lot. Thank you expresses extreme gratitude, humility, understanding.

Alice Walker

Here are some tips you can use to develop the profitable habit of saying “Thank you”:

  • Be specific in your thanks. It’s one thing to say, “I appreciate what you did today. Thanks a lot.” That’s a soap-bubble comment. Pretty while it lasts, but gone in seconds. It’s general and vague. When you thank them for something specific, that’s Velcro. That’s a thanks they remember because it sticks. You hook your gratitude to something the employee did. For instance, an employee just handled a difficult phone call with a customer really well. Thank them for that specific activity.
  • Appreciate the process. Target your appreciation on what the employee or vendor did. Let’s go back to the worker who took the phone call. Avoid telling the employee, “Thanks for helping me keep that customer.” That’s just an outcome that benefits you. Say, “I like how you hung in there when that customer was being difficult. You were really patient and respectful.” The same type of strategy goes for vendors. Give thanks for doing something that was an extra-mile effort for them, recognizing the above-and-beyond work.

    It’s about them, not you. Showing that you know something about them, and that you’re able to place yourself in their shoes, is incredibly valuable. Connect your gift-giving with life beyond the business walls. If a vendor became a grandpa, give him a copy of “Goodnight, Moon” to read to the little one. If an employee’s mother died of breast cancer this year, make an end-of -the-year donation to Race for the Cure in her name. Such intimacy breaks the relationship ice in a transformational, not just transactional, direction which is the game-changing pathway to greater profits.

  • Go old school with your thanks. In this digital world of emails and texts, Facebook and Twitter, the simple and quick act of writing a handwritten expression of gratitude can go a long way. There’s something special today about a handwritten note. It tells them you took out time to specifically appreciate them. Plus you create return business when you take pen in hand and write, “Thank you,” to your customers. Just say, “I know you could do business with others, but you chose us. Thank you! We treasure our relationship.”

Implement these tips, and your business will likely say “Thank you” back to you as you increase your profits year-round.

 

 

“The Gratitude Effect …… makes it possible that down the line you and others will get help.”

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Now, let’s look at some ways to practice being Thankful every day.

  1. Take a Daily Thank You Walk –Take a simple 5 or 10-minute walk each day and say out loud what you are thankful for. This will set you up for a positive day.
  2. Meal Time Thank You’s – (For those of us that still have family meal time.) At meal-time with your friends and family, go around the table and have each person, including the kids at the little table, say what they are thankful for.
  3. Gratitude Visit – Martin Seligman, Ph.D., an American psychologist, suggests that we write a letter expressing our gratitude to someone. Then we visit this person and read them the letter. His research shows that people who do this are measurably happier and less depressed a month later.
  4. Say Thank You at Work – we spend more hours with our colleagues t work than family…. so it won’t hurt to energize and engage your co-workers and team by letting them know you are grateful for them and their work. Oh! Another thing do not forget to say thank you to your clients and customers too….. It does wonders …… don’t take my word for it try it out.

So, leave a comment and let me know what you think about saying “thanks!”

PLUS, I’ve got a challenge for you.

A challenge that will make you a better person…

…and it’s a challenge that will help you run a better business.

What is it?

It’s simple:

Today I want you to take the time to say thank you to people who have helped you.

And MAKE IT COUNT.

Giving thanks is fun and puts a smile on everyone’s face. Give it a try.

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“Let gratitude be the pillow upon which you kneel to say your nightly prayer. And let faith be the bridge you build to overcome evil and welcome good.”

Maya Angelou,

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YOUR WORDS HAVE POWER   3 comments

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YOUR WORDS HAVE POWER

The mouth is a dangerous weapon, which can work for or against you, depending on how it is used. Your mouth is not meant for eating alone it is also an instrument for charting the course of your life.

Words truly do have power. Have you ever noticed the response or reaction you receive when you say certain things? That’s because the words we use affect the outcome of the situation. They enrich us or they can cut us to the bone as if we were cut with a knife.

Even though we communicate in many different ways, through a look or a touch, a smile, or even the way we stand, our words are even more important. They not only express our views on the subject we’re presenting, they also represent who we are as an individual.

 

Speaking comes to most people as naturally as breathing. On many occasions our words are uttered without conscious thought; in fact we rarely stop and think about what we are saying. Thousands of words pour out of our mouths each day as our thoughts, opinions, judgements and beliefs are freely expressed. Often, however, we are oblivious to the positive or negative effect these words have on ourselves and the people around us.

Words have tremendous power. Words give out energy and a message which creates a reaction in others. Everything you say produces an effect in the world. Whatever you say to someone else will produce some kind of an effect in that person. We are constantly creating something, either positive or negative with our words.

 

power of words 1“In the hands of a careful person words can work to do great good. But in d hands of a careless person,words can cause great harm.”

 

You should also note that, the reactions we get to our words often returns to us often in a multiplied form. If we’re angry our words can be forceful, rude, demeaning and hurtful. If we are happy our words can be joyful, happy, loving, and peaceful.That person’s response to the words we speak will be stronger because it will have the emotion created by the words attached to it. The power of words has a ripple effect in our life and those around us.

 

Recently I came across the work of Dr Emoto, and his studies on water crystals. He took samples of water, froze them and took photographs of the water crystals. He then wrote words on vials of water taken from the same source. The crystals formed in the vials which had positive words, such as love and gratitude, were beautiful. However the crystals in the vials with negative words such as hate and evil were very different and the water didn’t even form crystals in some instances. Experiments were done using words from different languages, and also by the scientists having no knowledge of what the words meant. The results were similar (see pictures below). The finding of this study on water crystals has had a profound impact on me. The human body is known to be composed of up to ninety percent water. If words had such a significant impact on water crystals, then what is the impact of positive and negative words to our bodies?

power of words 5 (Dr Emoto)“The sound of your voice and the things you say are more important than you know.”

 

When we speak we use words to describe things, our mind creates the picture. When we hear the words of a song we do the same thing. Those words can either build us up or tear us down. They help create positive self esteem or break down our self esteem. Words encourage us to be our best or they rip away our self worth and trust in our abilities to reach goals and life’s ambitions.

An important key to success in life is to understand the power of words. A word is a thought eternalized. Our thoughts do have a great effect on us even though they are internal. What we think effects the way we live our life, it effects our emotions, our attitudes and our behaviour. A thought spoken, however, has even more power. It can never be taken back; it is out of our mouth and will have an effect. Our words have even more power than our thoughts because they not only affect ourselves, but the people and the world around us.

Time To Change Your World

“You think being vulgar wit your words is cool, when in reality everyone loves a person who has encouraging or uplifting things to say.”

 

Successful people take control of their words, rather than letting their words control them. They are more conscious of their thoughts and words and the power they unleash. Successful people understand that they need to speak positively rather than negatively in order to see success. Successful people are characterized by the words that they speak. They know the importance of speaking words that will build self-esteem and confidence, build relationships and build possibilities. They speak words of affirmation, encouragement, love, acceptance and appreciation.

To see more personal success, the words that we speak need to be in alignment with what we want to see being produced in our life – our vision and our dreams. Your words can determine your destiny. Even more importantly, your words can make a positive difference on the people you interact with every day. Before you speak ask yourself: Is what I am about to say going to uplift the hearer? Will it inspire, motivate, and create forward momentum for them? Will it dissolve fear and create safety and trust? Will I create a positive or negative ripple effect by speaking out these words? Let‘s be determined to unleash the power of words for positive change.

It has been said that our eyes are windows to our soul and I believe that our words are also an indication of whom and what we are inside.

Words either give us hope or they bring despair. They are key to how we learn. From birth we are taught to communicate not only through touch, sight, and sound but through words.

Almost every emotion we feel as a human being is affected or created by the words we hear or say. Proverbs 13 verse 3 says that whoever guards his mouth preserves his life and he who opens his lips wide comes to ruin. So even in silence our words are powerful.

The very words we utter every day create the world we live in. They have THE to power to crush countries and the power to build nations anew.

Just for one day think about the words you use, think about the effect they have on you and the people around you. Use positive words instead of negative and see if the results you receive are different. I can bet you will be amazed.

power of words 2“By your choice of words you can influence others in positive ways and as a result achieve peace and prosperity in your life.”

IMPROVING YOUR SELF WORTH   3 comments

 

 

IMPROVING YOUR SELF WORTH

I recently discovered that I don’t put enough value on my self, so many people are this category with me and call it all sort of names one of the most popular name given to this is humility…well news flash it is not humility to sell yourself short. Why should he treat you the way it suits him regardless of how you feel or why should you allow her into your mind where she easily manipulates you. Work on your self worth, because you know you can be the most beautiful/ handsome person in the world and everybody sees you as great, but if you don’t know it for yourself all of that doesn’t matter. Every second that you spend doubting your worth, is a moment of your life thrown away. You have forever so don’t throw even one of your moments away. The great Malcolm X once said “We cannot think of being acceptable to others until we have first proven acceptable to ourselves.”

Self worth comes from within; you wont find it by having more money, having more friends, having a fancy car or a big house. it is something intrinsic and something we can’t gain extrinsically, meaning we won’t find self worth from external factors.

Your self worth is a function of how you value yourself. To build your self worth you must first discover your values and then make up your own definition of success. Your values are nothing more than what you value in life. You probably already know that society places excessive value on the outward appearances of success, such as money, material possessions, physical appearance, marital status, career and so on. In contrast, little consideration is ever given to the loftier values of a person, such as love, integrity, kindness, emotional intelligence, forgiveness and inner balance, when defining one’s success. This means that we have a warped definition of success based largely on outward appearances, which really results in a warped sense of self worth. Well lets take a look at a few tips I recently discovered to help improve our self worth:

 

Discover How You Value Yourself

 

You are likely to find that specific outward appearances automatically trigger a need within you to compare yourself to others, whether it is how much money someone else has or is making, how physically attractive they are, their relationship status or what material possessions they own and so on. Dig a little deeper and you will find that you have unconsciously placed an undue value on these outward appearances and are using them to determine your own self worth. In other words, how much money you have, how attractive you are and so on, have become the determining function of your self worth, and usually in isolation of all your other qualities and achievements. Such specific comparisons leave you temporarily feeling either better or worse about yourself, depending on where you ranked yourself on society’s scale of success.

 

Understand the power of your attitude toward yourself and views about yourself

 

 

How you perceive yourself, how you talk about yourself, and how you represent yourself eventually become the reality for you. And if it happens that you’re putting yourself down, belittling your worth, and making light of your talents in the face of others, then you will come across as self-destroying, low in self-esteem, and almost a part of the wallpaper. This isn’t humility, its self-denial and an attempt to lessen your presence. On the other hand, if you exaggerate your qualities, talents, and skills, you’ll come across as egotistical and arrogant but oddly enough; this is not about over-estimating your self-worth but about deceiving yourself through insecurity. There is a middle pathway and it is the one where you recognize and celebrate yourself. Celebrate the fact that you are a valuable person, equal to everyone else, and that your talents and thoughts are unique and worthy. Now, getting to this belief can be difficult if you have spent years underestimating your self worth but it is always possible to change your thoughts and to learn to value yourself. Like I said “hard” but not impossible

Learn to love yourself

 

 

 

 

Self-love is often equated with self-absorption, Vanity, and egotism. This is probably partly because the English language has a hard time dealing with the word “love” – it has to cover a lot of territory for the many different types of love out there. It is also caught up in the confusion people feel about the messaging to do good unto others, to always be charitable, and to give, give, give, of oneself. While these are noble intentions, they can often be taken out of proportion and used to downplay putting one’s own needs and wants beneath those of others out of a fear of being perceived as selfish or inward-looking. Again, this is about getting the balance right. Avoid superimposing how you think other people see you; how does it help you to surrender to their idea of you? Only you can give yourself the esteem boost needed. Learn to treat yourself with care, compassion, and lastly respect

 

Learn to self Analyze

Unfortunately we live in a time where we are very fond of going to see someone else to analyze us. Unless you’ve got a serious disorder, you do not need analysis by someone else. You need to analysis yourself so that you can clearly recognize where you’re underestimating yourself and short-changing yourself. Here are some questions for your self-analysis:

  • What experience have I had? How has this experience informed my growth?
  • What are my talents? List at least five.
  • What are my skills? Remember that talents are innate; skills need to be worked on to perfect them.
  • What are my strengths? Stop focusing on your weaknesses; you’ve probably done that long enough. Start looking at what your strengths are and start thinking about how you can make the most of them in the things you choose to do.
  • What do I want to be doing with my life? Am I doing it? If not, why not?
  • Am I happy with my health? If not, why not? And what can I do to move into wellness instead of living in sickness?
  • What makes me feel fulfilled? Am I working on that or am I busy working on other people’s fulfillment?

Don Not Base Your Self-worth on Other People

 

 

 

Once you try to live up to an image of what you think others want to you to be, you lose self-worth. Instead, you are following a scope set by other people’s expectations, whether or not those expectations are clearly defined or implied. Unfortunately, many people live this way, including making such choices as studies, career, where to live, and how many children to have, all based on expectations from parents, spouses, friends, and the media, and mostly because they are afraid of standing up for their own believes and preferences. You should instead be on the look out for people with healthy self-worth willing to share their insights and learning with you, people willing to guide you around life’s many traps. Look for those people to mentor you rather than being misguided by the unhappy people and allowing their negative words have a hold on you. Break the habit of trying to please everyone all of the time. That is impossible and even being a people pleaser will displease some people, particularly those with a high sense of self-worth who would cringe at your people pleasing behavior.

Learn to Value your time

Alongside undervaluing yourself because of the job you have or the earnings you make is that of how you spend your time. Stop neglecting parts of your life and consuming yourself with every other thing but your “You” time, things like spending pleasing family members, trying to please your boss or your colleagues. If you are stressed out, feeling undervalued, and you’re inadequately compensated, your balance of time has become skewed and has depleted your self-worth. Eventually this will lead to one of more of the following: being sick, being edgy and exploding. Evaluate the balance between the time you give away to others and how that time needs to spent on your own life. Could you be spending more time with your family and/or friends? If the answer to that is yes, then realize that your wealth resides in keeping that time for you and those you love, and reducing the amount of time you give away to others. It doesn’t mean that you have to give up helping out completely, but you do need to put community service or commitments to helping others into perspective.

Know That You Matter

 

 

 

Realistic self pep-talks are great and affirming your self-worth openly to yourself can be a very good way to start changing the internal negative junk that you might have developed over time. Take out time during the day to remind yourself that you’re a great person. Tell yourself you’re special, wonderful, lovable, and loved. Now, you need to note that affirmative talk is not the sole solution but it is part of a range of methods for boosting yourself and for taking out time to acknowledge that you do matter, as much as every person around you if not more

 

To wrap this up I would say if you must compete please compete with yourself and not with others plus learn how to live in the present I often say “Don’t live in the past unless you like to live in guilt and don’t live in the future unless you like to live in fear….Just focus on NOW!!!

WHY DO YOU SMILE?   1 comment

WHY DO YOU SMILE?

You know there are some things we do without knowing why, we just accept it as a norm cause everyone else is doing it….. I was asked by a lil girl quite recently “why do we smile???” I was about to answer simply “Because its good!” but then I thought there are so many things that feel good that should not be done so that answer on its own would definitely not suffice. Thus the beginning of my quest WHY DO WE SMILE and WHY SHOULD WE SMILE??? Well, I think Mother Teresa said it all when she said “ Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.”

 

Smiling is a great way to make yourself stand out while helping your body to function better. Learn to Smile to improve your health, your stress level, and your attractiveness. So, here are:-

  Ten Reasons To Smile – From Mark Stibich, Ph.D.

1. Smiling makes us attractive.

We are drawn to people who smile. There is an attraction factor. We want to know a smiling person and figure out what is so good. Frowns, scowls and grimaces all push people away — but a smile draws them in. In fact Carlos Santana said it all he said “Your wrinkles either show that you’re nasty, cranky, and senile, or that you’re always smiling.”

2. Smiling Changes Our Mood

Next time you are feeling down, try putting on a smile. There’s a good chance you mood will change for the better. Smiling can trick the body into helping you change your mood.

3. Smiling is Contagious

When someone is smiling they lighten up the room, change the moods of others, and make things happier. A smiling person brings happiness with them. Smile lots and you will draw people to you.

4. Smiling Relieves Stress

Stress can really show up in our faces. Smiling helps to prevent us from looking tired, worn down, and overwhelmed. When you are stressed, take time to put on a smile. The stress should be reduced and you’ll be better able to take action.

When I look out at the people and they look at me and they’re smiling, then I know that I’m loved. That is the time when I have no worries, no problems.
Etta James

5. Smiling Boosts Your Immune System

Smiling helps the immune system to work better. When you smile, immune function improves possibly because you are more relaxed. Prevent the flu and colds by smiling.

6. Smiling Lowers Your Blood Pressure

When you smile, there is a measurable reduction in your blood pressure. Give it a try if you have a blood pressure monitor at home. Sit for a few minutes, take a reading. Then smile for a minute and take another reading while still smiling. Do you notice a difference?

7. Smiling Releases Endorphins, Natural Pain Killers and Serotonin

Studies have shown that smiling releases endorphins, natural pain killers, and serotonin. Together these three make us feel good. Smiling is a natural drug.

8. Smiling Lifts the Face and Makes You Look Younger

The muscles we use to smile lift the face, making a person appear younger. Don’t go for a face lift, just try smiling your way through the day — you’ll look younger and feel better.

9. Smiling Makes You Seem Successful

Smiling people appear more confident, are more likely to be promoted, and more likely to be approached. Put on a smile at meetings and appointments and people will react to you differently.

10. Smiling Helps You Stay Positive

Try this test: Smile. Now try to think of something negative without losing the smile. It’s hard. When we smile our body is sending the rest of us a message that “Life is Good!” Stay away from depression, stress and worry by smiling.

Well after reading this i hope we have more smiley faces in the world and why not Eric Davis once said “It takes a lot of energy to be negative. You have to work at it. But smiling is painless. I’d rather spend my energy smiling.” I will wrap this up with a saying from Dr. Seuss  it goes “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”

Remember even though the outside world might be raining, if you keep on smiling the sun will soon show its face and smile back at you.
Anna Lee